Vampires into angels

How to change workplace Vampires into Angels and improve wellbeing and performance

30th October 2020: by Maria Paviour - founder of Cari - connect with me on LinkedIn

When I first wrote Changing Vampires into Angels, my conclusions were that burnout is not caused by work pressure alone, it is caused by work pressure plus vampires.

Now I have written a new edition of this book. The focus is on how to overcome vampires that are manifest in public and private organizations, leading to an environment that can be teeming with negative behaviours.

Work cultures need to enable people to have self empowerment, to make work enjoyable and satisfying.

You can read an introduction to the ebook below and sign up to receive every chapter by email free of charge. The messages are important for all of us - so I want to share them, since everyone's wellbeing is under strain with the events of 2020.

  • Energy Vampires are real people who:
  • drain your energy
  • take advantage of you
  • manipulate or bully you
  • blast you with charisma
  • give you advice you don't want

Wellbeing levels in the workplace have dropped enormously with Covid-19 challenges. And are still heading downwards. The quality of workplace relationships are under enormous strain.

If wellbeing improves with positive relationships, performance at work is given a huge boost and people are happier in all parts of their lives.

INTRODUCTION

Vampires into Angels: The Neuroscience of Performance and Compassion

When I wrote the first edition of "Changing Vampires into Angels", it was at the turn of the Millennium, and things seemed to be changing at a pace. My interest in the science took me on a journey into psychology, biology and even quantum physics. It seemed like the future was about to blossom into a wonderful tomorrow for us all.

Sadly, life did not happen quite that way. In fact, the world has become more rigid and vampires are more a problem today than ever. Only on a grander scale.

The original text to this book was based upon my observations combined with my biological and psychological background. Now, I return to this with a slightly different view.

I now look at the concept of Vampires in terms of how they are manifest in corporate organizations, how these organizations are teaming with negative behaviours and how this has led to the sorry state of the world we now live in; a place that , if left unchanged, seems to offer very little hope for our children and even less for our children’s children.

My question is ‘how did we get to such a place as this?’, bearing in mind that at the turn of the millennium we were very well aware of the need to look after the planet, the need for equality and compassion for all people, the need for education for all, the need to welcome strangers and those fleeing from oppression.

The answer appears to me to be a rise in those behaviours that I described as ‘Little Vampire behaviours’, but that I now would be brave enough to say are evidence of white-collar psychopathy.

We have created organizations in the image of our inner vampires, given them the ultimate power and then expected them to be self-moderating. Is it any surprise we are in this mess?

I’m revisiting the Vampire concept. I have decided to look deeper into those behaviours and start to see where we, each one of us, can choose to take a journey into the dark side, or where we can instead join with the enlightened.

There is still hope, but this depends upon us joining together and becoming one, overarching force for good. In the eponymous words of Naomi Klein’s book, No is not enough!

In this new ebook edition, I have reviewed Vampirism in terms of the brain science that underpins it. Vampirism is, for me, a habit that is oxymoronic, as it promises pleasure but often delivers long term misery.

It can keep us from seeing the truth of our behaviours, so that we can exercise anger and blame, rather than seeing that if we hurt one, we hurt us all. Our vampire was formed when we were children, it is a competency, one that enables us to survive - and if you are reading this right now, then it proves that it has worked.

We all have a 'Little Vampire' inside and learning to love and care for it frees us. When we realise that the scariest thing of all is only the huge and inflected shadow of our inner child, we can begin to get back in the driving seat of our brains.

This book focuses on the science of co-regulation; the evidence that we are all interconnected, and it shines a light on the ways of self-empowerment. It takes a broader look at Vampire behaviours by exploring the notion of Psychopaths and the Zombies these types of cultures create.

  • The two main strands here are:
  • what can we do something about for ourselves and
  • what is happening to us without our control.

Vampirism is a choice, although for many of us it is not a choice we take consciously. However, we can alter these behaviours and save them for when they are truly needed.

Zombisim is forced upon us, it is a closing down of our brains caused by threatening cultures in society or work. This, too, is a competency, and way of keeping us safe.

There is much we can do to create a 'safe space' for ourselves, and the onus is upon work cultures to create space spaces for people to get back into a sense of self empowerment, to make work enjoyable and satisfying.

Sustainability is becoming understood as more than just aspirational and philosophical by the Wellbeing Economy Alliance and many others that recognize the value of the Manifesto of Reward, and focus on what can be done, by every last one of us, to make the world the wonderful place it has every right to be.

In the process of doing this, there are some huge questions that need to be answered at a higher level than of us as individuals – questions over our true commitment to egalitarianism and diversity; questions we are attempting to answered by Feminism, Black Lives Matter, LGBTQIA+ rights, Vegans and many other special interest groups.

Our view of people, planet and animal rights are defining the people we are and could be.

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30th October 2020: by Maria Paviour - founder of Cari - connect with me on LinkedIn

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